Handling the past

One of the biggest challenges that couples in relationship or marriage counselling face is how they handle the past. All to often the past is either swept under the carpet or continually brought up. The mantra that I use with clients is “There are only two things the past is good for: To learn from and be grateful for.”


Are You Holding Onto Stuff?

My Mum lives on her own in her own house in Rangiora, about 30 minutes north of Christchurch. She has been blessed with pretty good health. The only thing that she takes is a couple of Panadol in the morning to help with a bit of pain in her hip and back as a result...

The Dark Side of Relationships

Domestic Violence and Dealing with the Past. Warning. This blog is about domestic violence. I was on Facebook tonight and someone I had reached out to during the day had messaged me back. Let me call her Bronwyn. Bronwyn accepted my request to connect, and I had...