Part 1

Part 1 – Relationship Overview

In working with individuals, couples, families and organisations, I have found that there are just fours areas that people have problems in their relationships.

This video gives an overview of the four areas and why it is important to make sure all four areas are covered to ensure that the areas of relationship weakness are identified, addressed and then importantly the changes are implemented, creating permanent change for the better.

The four key areas;

1. Connection.

Connection is required in all successful relationships. Even between organisations, connections are made between the members of each organisation. The stronger the connection the stronger the relationship. A key component of connection is the quality of communication. Communication occurs on many levels, and when there is a breakdown in communication problems arise.

2. Compass.

I use the word Compass here to give the image of being on the same page, heading in the same direction. The key components here are understanding each others:

  • Vision. What is the vision of where each party and what is the vision for the relationship.
  • Values: What is important for each party and also what is important for the relationship.
  • Purpose: A simple question and understanding of the purpose for the relationship and why we are here.
  • Passion: Having an understanding of what people or organisations are passionate about can add fuel to the relationship.

3. Comprehend.

How we comprehend or understand the models for relationships or even for how we operate has a major impact on the quality of relationships. In this area I have created and enhanced a number of models to make understanding relationships easy.

4. Change.

It is great to identify the problems and work out solutions and strategies in the three areas of Connection, Compass and Comprehend, however unless there is a strategy for building in sustainable change, to create new habits moving forward, it is highly likely that individuals, couples, families and organisations will revert back to their old familiar habits.

Whether it’s a couples relationship, family relationships, relationships in organisations or between organisations the same principles apply.

This overview forms a key part in relationship counselling and relationship coaching, to help identify where problems are and the solutions that can be developed to fix these problems