Are you in a “long long distance love affair”? (I was singing this line when I wrote this, lol) Kidding aside, Have you ever wondered if it is all worth it? Does your partner work away? Perhaps FIFO (fly in fly out) or working long periods in other countries?
Long distance relationships can be a challenge or even frightening to some. No one ever said it’s easy to be in a relationship where your partner is often away from home, especially if you have children.
There are a lot of pitfalls along the way but with the right adjustments and commitment from both parties, there is no reason why your relationship won’t be in good shape, and in fact become stronger.
As a relationship expert, I have had a couple conversations with clients who are in this situation , and thought I would share some insights with you. (Even if you are not separated for work, you may find some of the tips useful.)
I’ve had the chance to dissect and analyze the things that they’re going through and so I am sharing these 5 important tips to make a Long Distance Relationship work:
- Daily communication is a must— How often do you keep in touch? Do you worry or get stressed when you don’t hear from your partner? In this day and age, there are a number of ways to communicate with our partners. Either through text message, IM’s, email, video chatting and a whole lot more. You just need to figure out the best way to communicate. Not only does this ignite the sparks, it also maintains your connection.
- Have something to look forward to— People in long distance relationships often ask themselves this: “Do they still feel the same way as they did when we were dating?” In order to keep the excitement, do you both have to have something to look forward to when you reunite? Oftentimes, the uncertainties will grow and fester until it takes over your thoughts.
- Trust each other— How much do you really trust each other? This maybe a tough question for some to answer easily, easy for others. Even in the most secure relationships, there are moments when jealousy and insecurity can arise. Most of the conflicts would often start from trust issues. Trust, I believe is the key ingredient to make a long distance relationship work or any relationship at that.
- Keeping lines of communication open— How venerable can you be? Are you open, honest and real about how you’re feeling? It is best to discuss small problems right away than to let it turn into a big issue down the road. You might need to check in and see if you have all the skills and confidence to express how you are really feeling and what your needs are while taking full ownership.
- Read, listen or watch the same things—Do you have some growing common interests to always talk about? Having to watch the same series or read the same books would always give you something to talk about. This would make both of you feel closer and connected. It is always nice to have something to share with your partner despite the distance.
In order to weather the storms of a long distance relationship, both parties should really decide to commit and trust each other. It is easy to get caught up with the drama our mind creates, but it is up to both of you to really keep your relationship afloat and work on pulling in the same direction.
If you have any questions or feedback or just want to have somebody to speak about your relationship, feel free to reach out and have a conversation with me. Also, feel free to pass this on to anyone you know that may benefit from this.
So if you've got any questions regarding this blog or any aspect of your relationship, why not take advantage of the complimentary 30-minute session I offer. Contact Me to see how I can help you have more healthier and happier relationships. Until next time.
Keith Flynn BSc, Dip. Hyp.